The Man I Love

So a few things have happened that have made me think a lot and have caused me to have a strong need to write about my husband.

My husband is the better of the two of us. He blew my mind when I met him. Beside his good looks what really sold me on falling in love with him was a talk he gave in a student ward the summer we met. He is an amazing speaker and has a way with words that I could only wish for. He is an amazingly gifted man who doesn't realize it and if he does he is the most humble person about it all. I don't know if he realizes he has a gift to the magnitude he has it. Every where he has ever worked he has been respected by his employer and they always have gone out of their way to let him know how great of an employee he is. Pretty much all of his boss' have leaned on him to help them and do other things that are not his job. All of his employers have valued him, he is a hard worker and he does the grunt work when others won't. He also is very good at the game of social politics (I made this up, but you all know what I am talking about). He knows his place in life and he accepts it and does his best.

He is always willing to help others as long as he isn't dead tired. He is so willing to let people borrow our things (even when I am not). He trusts people much easier than I do and probably ever will. He always gives people the benefit of the doubt until they show him otherwise where I on the other hand am quick to judge. He goes out of his way to make people feel comfortable and to talk to people sometimes (this has become less frequent as people do judge him wrongly).

I must add this though Daryl has never had one thing come easy in his life, I do not say this out of poor him or us. He is just very aware of it as am I. Everything good in our life has come from the hands of our Lord and we very openly acknowledge this. Even though he is aware of this he very seldom complains, he accepts it and tries harder for the next thing he wants.

He is a very spiritual person that is one of the things like I mentioned that made him even more attractive to me. His answers to some things are just simple and show his faith in the Lord. Plus I think he gives great talks, he will never give a talk unless he has at least a week to prepare, he takes that very serious which I admire and love about him. He is simple minded when it comes to callings and the church and faith. He doesn't worry about the big stuff (like the second coming or what happens after this life) he is focused and shows faith so easily. I admire him for that and he in turn has helped me.

Daryl gives 110% to our family. He picks up my slack which is a lot. He is constantly thinking of what he can do to make mine and Paiglee's life that much better or what will make us happy. He always puts our needs before his own; sometimes it is a flaw of his. He helps me do house hold chores, and folds the laundry for me (that is his job). He is so loyal not only to me but to others and can be trusted beyond belief. I feel safe with him and know that he looks out for me and has my best interest at heart. He puts up with my mood swings and the faults that came along with me. He is pretty darn patient something I can only aspire to.

He has the most amazingly amount of respect and love for his parents. They are truly why he has so many great qualities. The view of the relationship I see from my end is pretty heart melting. He is so much like his dad. He is seriously wise beyond his years, when in the right mood and setting and topic, few have ever seen this side of him. He loves the history and military channel it is a Michael Family thing I think all the boys in his family watch that stuff. That is his main choice of TV watching.

Plus he is a quick learner, he fixes things for me, and he learns how to do something and will find away to make it even easier and more efficient, he does too much for me and then some.

But with all this said he has faults some to which others are aware. He is a fan of a good joke even if not of the best taste, he can have a not so tasteful sense of humor at times, he is a huge fan of Mt. Dew (if that is a fault, to some it is), And to be honest that is where his faults end. But unfortunately he is judged very often. His character has been judged, his work ethic has been. He has been judged because he does not take himself seriously enough and can be light hearted when others take something serious aka at church in the hall ways he can be a little too silly (but he is about having fun, he always tells me Sundays do not need to be boring). My opinion, some people are wound too tightly. His worthiness had been judged and questioned numerous times. : ..( And our relationship has been judged. I don't know if people ever knew we found out these things that were said, and others just said it to his face (those who did are very few in number).

Now I will add, some of Daryl's jokes can be ridiculous or what not but he is who he is. He was like this before I married him and still is even if I tell him over and over to behave. I have tried hard to not let others opinions or judgments of my husband bother me. But it hurts when I know it is not a right judgment passed upon him. And what is even more amazing he may be bothered about it for a moment but then goes on with his business, doesn't judge the person who judged him first. He carries on as if nothing happened; he is amazing in that aspect. Where he may be so forgiving I cannot say the same for myself. I have been dying to rip all these people up and down the wall. Because let’s be honest I do not pretend to be holier than thou, and do not have the best judgment of the social politics and really don't care. But the only reason these people don't have scraps on their backs is because Daryl. The man they judge is the only thing standing between my venom and them.

Most of the judgments are from people who don't really know him, or think they know him. Very few people really know him he is a very personal man and likes his business rapped up tight. Where I am an open book Daryl is a book that cannot be read just by looking at his cover or the footnotes. Where ever we go and where ever we have been we have always had to deal with this. I don't know why people find it easy to say what they want to him or about him or treat him like crap. I have even wondered, is it something I am doing? And I can’t think, I speak highly of him.

I don't know why this happens but I seriously wish it would stop. All I have to say is I don't like to be around people like this I can't do it and won't, it is my way of dealing with it without being nasty. I keep thinking of the YW lesson last Sunday on forgiveness and it is so hard to put in action what I know I should. But it hurts when The Man I Love is crapped on by so many. My instinct is to fight and fight hard…..