Okay anyone that doesn't want to read me vent and be rude and make threats to hurt someone or repeat myself many times than you should just not read.
So I am at Wal-mart and all is going well I am looking at some things to make up my mind as to what I want to do for a craft. I let Paiglee out of the cart because she was doing so well and I turn around she is nowhere. I about flip, I find her by the toys and she was looking, and that was fine but she needs to stay by me. I let her continue to look because I can see her from where I am so no big deal. Then I look to check on her and she was gone. I find her several isles down and so I put her in the basket and give her a toy to look at while I finish what I am doing. She was doing fine then I was done and thought I will get her bubbles or something so she hands me the toy she is playing with I set it down cause she was grabbing for something else. Then she flips and I wasn't going to hand her the toy back when she screams like that and she begins to have a huge meltdown. I put down everything and turn around she is standing up in the seated part of the basket. I then put her back down and buckle her in tighter, not so tight she can't wiggle and still throw her fit, just so she can't get her body out.
She is seriously flipping out and throwing her arms up screaming so loud I can barely hear the people around me talking. I am trying to make my way to the front of the store as fast as possible. I am already embarrassed that Paiglee is freaking out like this and I am pretty mad. I don't yell at Paiglee or anything I am just clearly trying to get out and I probably look pissed. Who wouldn't be!! Then I am walking down this isle and this group of people are staring everyone but this lady in the group stop staring in a timely fashion, but this one lady like stares me down and has a look of disgust on her face. I am fuming pissed and I look at the lady and say "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT?" I seriously might have ripped out her eyeballs if I stopped. She then proceeds to say something to which I didn't hear because of my child freaking out. Plus I was on a mission to get out of there. Everyone is turning to look at me and stares (not as long as this lady I should add) I am at the self check out trying to hurry. I couldn't find the tag for one thing I told the lady and she said something I then said I don't have time to waste. Then she hands it to me. I can hear a lady behind me talking I look over my shoulder to flash her a look. Then Through all the mess I see JEN, it was great because out of all the people staring and saying things I see a friendly face who waves and says hi, and stops to talk. This was the only time Paiglee stopped crying and I then begin to vent to Jen about the people around me. I don’t care if people heard what I had to say maybe they will get the point. Thanks Jen for letting me vent and giving me a few seconds of quiet.
But here is my thing that I want to say and I have said before. I really hope that lady and any other person who stares or says rude things reads this post (not likely but I am hopeful). I don't know what some people are thinking, to think that staring or saying something is going to help any situation like I was dealing with. Your best bet especially if it is me, look the other way pretend I am not there, and keep your stupid little remarks to yourself even if I can't hear them over the screaming just shut your trap. Do you not think I am embarrassed or flustered by my child? It doesn't help to have someone looking at you or saying something. Plus then you just get hotter when you realize people are staring, because it seems every time your child starts acting up the heat is cranked up, and you begin to sweat and get flustered. I think people need a good old fashioned lesson of MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. You know I try to teach Paiglee that, when she sees other kids flip out she has asked "what’s wrong” I simply say the kid is sad and tell her to mind her own business. Because I have been there where my kid flips out and the last thing the mother needs or wants is someone staring at her or talking about her, OR even JUDGING her. If I am beating my child then feel free to step in, but when I am ignoring her fit and trying to get out of the place do me a favor IGNORE THE CRAP OUT OF ME. Then what gets me every time is when you can tell by the look they give you or the look on their face or what they say that they think you can't handle your kid or parent or whatever. Whatever they are thinking it isn't nice or they wouldn't have that stink face on. I just don't know where people get off acting like my child is their business or what I am doing is their business. Then I can't even tell you how bad I would like to knock the crap out of some lady staring at me because she thinks she can deal with my kid better or because my kid is bothering her or ruining her peace and quiet. I seriously think people like that need a good dose of reality. They act as if there kid hasn’t or never has acted out or thrown a fit. Save the SNUB comments and looks cause I don't want to hear it or see it and I seriously might hit someone if they pull this crap with me again (WARNING to future people). So please if you have read this and are one of these rude people or have an issue with other peoples kids do me a favor “MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS” that is all I ask, judge me in your head or talk about me later but don’t do it while my kid is freaking out. LEARN SOME FREAKING MANNERS. And I will deal with my child.
4 comments:
Oh Em, you are so not alone! I hate when people are staring at me when my kid's having a bad moment. I'm sorry people were rude to you! Makes me want to go beat them all up! Jerks! You qare a good mom and you did the right thing!
Em, I'm glad I was there too. You're so cute, even when you're pissed. :) I love you and your not the first mom for sure to deal with a crying child in walmart. I don't get why people watch either. Seriously get over yourself and give the poor mom and kid a break.
I love this story. Seriously why are people staring at you guys. Maybe they should stare at the other million people in there who haven't showered for a week. Honestly what's worse a screaming child who's leaving as fast as her mom can manage or someone with BO who is always in the same isle as you are. I'll take the screaming P any day of the week!
Emily, I loved the fact that you shared this story. I have had similar experiences with this type of behavior from people and children. I have found that those that understand and have had children don't say anything unless it is a smile and to say, I understand. I must admit, b.c. (before children), I couldn't understand why the child was screaming at the top of their lungs and had wondered what the Mom or Dad had done to cause the problem. This quickly changed after I had children and I realized that it was not the parents actions, but it was just that the child was a child. I was truly changed by the experience of having children. Your experience made me smile and reflect back on how I used to be compared to how I am now; now that I have experienced children.
Some people are still not very nice even after they have had children. I suspect that their children act up in other ways....probably at school. I always felt blessed that my children were good in school but acted up when they were with the family or me. I felt at least they knew what to do when I wasn't around, even if they are pills when I was with them. Paiglee is a gem, just like you and Daryl. You both are great parents. I always think about the story of President Kimball helping this poor mother with her children in the airport. The mother was pregnant and was not able to pick up her crying child. She was in line to check in and was scooting her child who was sitting on the ground forward with her foot. Many people were standing around being critical of this woman without knowing the reason for her not picking up the crying child. President Kimball before he was the prophet, came to the aid of this woman and picked up the child and helped the mother get checked in and dried the tears of the child.
I guess this is a good lesson to all not to judge. We never really know what is happening in someone's life. We just need to be loving and as helpful as we can. Hopefully others will read your story and realize that they need to be supportive of the parents.
Never forget that you are a great Mom Emily and Paigelee is adorable. I hope to see you at the family reunion.
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